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Friday, 3 June 2016

Gratitude

So, it's exam time which inevitably means...PROCRASTINATION!!! And obviously means a nice YouTube binge. Whilst I was on said binge today, I came across a slightly old video, but nonetheless a really powerful video. Take a look: 



There's one thing I think we can ALL take from this video, no matter your social position, financial status, gender, sexuality, race etc. and that is: GRATITUDE

Thousands of people everyday are in Eric's position, and unfortunately there may be thousands more tomorrow. This video shows the difficult struggles people like Eric have faced and are facing, and the reality of our situation versus that of a homeless person. I'm lucky that I have parents, a warm bed, food and an education. I'm even more lucky for the non-essential things like coffee (although that's debatable), a cell phone, makeup, a camera etc. 

Watching that video made me appreciate my opportunities even more as not every body is able to lead a comfortable life, and hopefully, one day I'll be able to help people like Eric in more significant ways.  It's easy to get caught up in our lives and the struggles we have, which no doubt are important to us. But doing so makes us forget about the people who have it much worse. 

And so, use Eric and Rahat (the man who made the video) as your examples today: appreciate what you have and who you have in your life. Help and be kind to others. 1000 dollars is a lot of money, particularly for someone without a home, and his generosity and offer to share the money is a touching act of kindness.

NB. For those of you new to Eric's story, he now has a home thanks to public donations, a job and has even helped other homeless people too! 


I hope you feel a little more inspired today, my lovely readers. With much love and gratitude,
♥ Jess ♥

Monday, 5 January 2015

The One Thing You Need To Do Today

*Cue Eminem track*
Guess who's back?
Back again.
Jess is back,
tell a friend!
(This joke only really works if you sing it to Eminem's "Without Me", so just humour me? Thanks.)
 
Hello, hello to my lovely, lovely readers. (Look at the repetition in that line. Damn gurrll.) Welcome
back, I've missed you, hope you've missed me too. I know I don't have a particularly large viewer ship, but to those of you who do read my blog and have asked for more posts, here it is. Hope you enjoy and thanks for the support. I'd like to first start off with an apology and maybe the only one I want to do in 2015. I want to say sorry. Sorry for not blogging as much as I should have last year. I stopped for a bit due to exams and then after due to sheer laziness really, I couldn't get back into the habit (ironic since it's a 'habit', huh?) and then afterwards, it just felt like "oh well another week of not blogging isn't really going to affect anything". But I've had a revelation today, which I will tell you about in this post if you could so kindly continue reading.

Normally each time this year, bloggers and vloggers (the internet folk) might let you in on their New Year's resolutions. Now I'm not going to tell you mine as I don't feel like people would really be THAT interested in them, but if you want to find them out let me know. (You can read about last year's resolutions  here ) However, just to tease you a little bit, one of my resolutions this year is to do more things that I enjoy. It seems a bit fool proof since if you enjoy something, naturally you'll want to do it, right? But you'll be surprised how easy it is to get bogged down or distracted and just work, work, work and next thing you know, it's 2016!

But today, I was sitting on the bus and I started thinking about people I looked up to. People like Tina Fey, Jason Segel, Anjelah Johnson, Donald Glover, those old people on the electric wheelchairs riding down the street like a BADASS #oldpeoplegoals,  and I was thinking about what they all had in common. Besides all of them being incredibly funny people and actors (aside from the OAPs), they all had more than one profession. Some were singers, actors, comedians, writers, directors and I just thought, "how amazing is that to experience so many things in life?" The answer: very. (Does the way I've formatted that 'very' look incredibly sassy to you as well?)

The reason I looked up to them so much is that they did things they wanted to do everyday. And right now, you reading this, I want you to do one thing, ONE THING, today that you enjoy. Sleeping and eating counts too! And then do ANOTHER THING that you want to do tomorrow. Today, I just wanted to blog and write my thoughts out onto the internet. There's no guarantee that people are actually going to read this, but hey, at least I'm here doing something I want to do.

 
So that's all for today folks! Let me know your New Year's resolutions because I'm a nosy little bugger!

♥ Jess ♥

Monday, 15 September 2014

How You Can Benefit From Being Around Judgemental People

Hello, hi, how'd'you do? Okay, now we've made our introductions, let's do this shall we?

 
First thing to say is that although you can benefit from being around judgemental people, which I will explain as you read on, I don't recommend spending all of your time around them. Long-term readers of my blog might remember my theory of basement and balcony people - the general gist of it is, certain people will bring you down, but others will encourage you and put you in a higher light ("balcony" people). As a general note, avoid spending time with judgemental people as much as you can, but if you need to see these people every day, for example at work or school, here is how you can benefit and turn their negative energy into positive energy.

Spending time with a negative Nancy is hard, especially when said negative Nancy is judgemental as well. It leaves you feeling inadequate. And feeling inadequate is one of the worst feelings in the world. Believe me.

Recently someone made quite a rude remark about one of my ambitions to travel, meet people and  to explore as many countries as I can.  This person also, for lack of a better word, completely bashed my future plans and any ideas I happened to mention, which were not directed at this person in the first place. Now I didn't really care, mostly because I knew I was going to do it anyway. But it made me think about how this person, let's call her Nancy, said her opinion just for the sake of saying it. It didn't make me change my mind, it didn't make me like her even more - in fact probably the opposite of both happened.

But what I recommend, my dear readers, when dealing with someone like Nancy, is hearing these opinions. Not listening, hearing. Don't listen and let their hurtful words sink into your mind. Hear what they have to say, and as rude and as disrespectful as they are, just hear them out. The reason I say this is, it's important to remember their words and let that fuel your desire, almost as a form of motivation, to do what you want to do even more. If someone says don't do xyz because it's "so boring", you need to say to yourself, "WHO CARES? I know I'm going to do xyz anyway. I have the drive, the determination, the ambition and most importantly the dream, to get where I want to be in life. I can do it" Or even if it's something small like someone says something along the lines of  "I can't believe she's wearing that jumper, it's so hideous." Again, you need to say to yourself, "WHO CARES? Let me do me, and I'm going to be just fine."



You never have to prove anything to anyone. But you can show them how wrong they were about you. Let them see you doing what you said you would do. Let them see what they were never able to see in you before.

I am a whole hearted believer in things happening for a reason. I believe that when you meet difficult people who you have to deal with, that is your learning block. From these negative, unpleasant people you can learn how not to behave and how to treat others. You hear your kindergarten teacher say "treat others the way you want to be treated." Judgemental people don't treat you well. And it doesn't ever feel good. So why subject someone else to that same feeling? Learn from these people. Learn that treating people badly and looking down on their hopes, ambitions and dreams isn't what is right. What is right, is believing in yourself. Believing that you can get to where you want to be most. Learn from them that you need to believe in yourself even when they won't.

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Judgemental people, although one of the worst to be around, have so many benefits. They teach you to love yourself even more, because they don't feel comfortable loving you. They teach you to believe in yourself and have your own dreams and goals, specific to you and no one else. They teach you to be independent and show you how you should make other people feel. They show you that even though you can feel your worst when around them, nothing is worse that bringing other people down. They teach you that you are the most important person in your life. You need to treat yourself with love, integrity and respect. Do what you want.


 
♥ Jess ♥
 
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Saturday, 28 June 2014

What Does YOLO Mean To You?


This video isn't really related to the post, it just has the same title and I love the Lonely Island - it's just here to brighten up your day :) 

Yo yo yo blog readers! Welcome back to Eccentriclightbulbs, hope you've missed me - I've certainly missed you. For those of you who have had exams, I sincerely hope they all went well and for those of you who are getting results in the summer (like me) I'll be praying for the best for all of us! So enough with hellos and how do you dos, let's get cracking...

Today's post is all about doing things right here, right now. You may have heard this saying in other various forms like 'Carpe Diem' or 'seize the day'. But like oh so many phrases that we use, they seem to have lost their meaning (to me at least, I'm not sure about you.) We say YOLO but what does it actually mean? Okay, you only live once. Fair enough. But does it mean; trying an activity once eg. skydiving because you need to take a chance, because you only live once and you should seize every chance you could get? Or not doing an activity eg.skydiving because you could essentially die hence the 'only live once' part?

 
 
Think about what YOLO means to you. Why not think of it when it means doing every opportunity you can get? It's scary thinking that you could take a chance and fail. It's kind of a secret nightmare of mine. But what if, just what if; what if you don't fail and it goes well and you succeed? Don't you want that?
 
 
Take the chance and say YOLO! Work towards what you want. To be able to take the chance you need to start doing things right here, right now because you only live once, and you need to use every second and opportunity you have on this planet to be who you want to be. And to do that, you need to start doing things right now.

Want to be a dancer? Start taking classes today or stretch right now.
Want to get into Oxbridge? Start going to University open days, start writing your CV today.
Want to lose weight? Start exercising now.
Want to play the ukulele? Buy one/ rent one today.
Want to be an author? Start practicing your writing now.

Do all the things you've always wanted to do like joining a Pilates class or reading that book by Jodi Picoult or watching that PLL marathon because you never got the chance. Well now, here is your chance. Do it now because life is too important to waste time procrastinating and waiting around. Do it for yourself so you can live your life to how you want it to be.

It's summer now, the perfect time to start working on things you've always wanted to do. Today, YOU reading this sentence  at this exact moment, this exact second, I want you to say, "YOLO." Say it, then laugh a little because it sounds ridiculous,  then work towards whatever you said YOLO to. If you said it to being a singer, get singing lessons once you're done reading this post. If you said YOLO to being more toned, go to a gym now. If you said YOLO to skydiving, great, jump off out of that plane (with a parachute though).

 


Take this moment and this summer to get your chance. Don't wait for something to occur. Make it happen now by doing what you've always wanted to do. So, my dear readers, take a chance and say YOLO.

♥ Jess ♥
 
 

Tuesday, 8 April 2014

Update + Exams

Why, hello there :) Hope you've all been well and you're doing great whatever it is you do. I'll start this off by saying a huge I'M SORRY for being a bit absent. (A bit is a bit of an understatement though) Life got crazy, stuff happened, I lost my way, I'm trying to go back, travelled far and wide using my own magical purple backpack called "Backpack" (yes, I'm Dora - surprise!) and met a lovely monkey who wears red boots who just so happens to be called "Boots." And he pulls red boots off just as much as Ted Mosby does. You go Glen Coco.


So to the four of you who are subscribed to me/read my blog/look at my blog/say you read it but really don't, I apologise for not showing up here. Like I've mentioned oodles and oodles of times, I need to get focused for my GCSEs and as much as I LOVE my blog, for now school work has to come first. But then after GCSEs I can say "Screw you!" to school for the summer. Yipee!! Just gotta keep pushing through...just keep going....just keep swimming...just keep swimming....

Sorry, let's get back on track. I say "let's" as if you're off-track too but really it's just me. Oops. Okay so main thing I needed to say today was:

1) Sorry for being gone :(
2) I'm going to be gone for a little while more :( (Until about June 20th)
3) GCSEs start in approximately 5 weeks and that is how long I have to get my shit together. Of course I will be drawing up ideas if I can to let you know how I get on (if you care about that), but I won't be able to properly write blog posts and unfortunately, I can't let myself get distracted.
4) I apologise again for the future but stay tuned for TONS of posts in the summer!
5) Wish me luck! I've been building up to these exams for about 5 years and I need to not fall at the last hurdle. I'm nervous....oh Lord please watch over me! <3 p="">
*deep exhale*
Alright, let's do this.
 
Side note: If you're going to be doing your GCSEs/any other summer exams, I've compiled a little 'playlist' of blog posts you might find helpful - Good luck!
 
 
♥ Jess ♥